Adoption is amazing…until it’s not

Don’t get me wrong – I’m so glad we have chosen this path, but if I’m being honest, right now it sucks. Yep, I said it. Adoption can be really hard and incredibly frustrating. Please know that I’m not looking for sympathy or condolences, I’m simple sharing my heart and right now it’s a little raw. 

Over a year and a half ago we decided we were ready to start a family.  We prayed, and felt called to start our family with adoption. That’s when we filled out our adoption paperwork and began moving forward with international adoption. Since we first began we have seen multiple friends get pregnant, we have attended baby showers and seen many families grow. We couldn’t be happier for our friends and everything about this is beautiful, but it can also be hard at times. We feel called to adoption and know this is the direction we need to move, but when you feel like you are ready to start a family and yet have little control about the next step it often feels debilitating.

As many of you know there are still no updates with Uganda. None. We knew when we started down this path it could take a long time, but we didn’t know how long. As we posted before there has been a lot of turmoil with international adoption and it doesn’t seem to be letting up. Our agency continues to work to push paperwork through and train an in country social worker, but they are still unable to adopt children out of the country. Our paperwork will soon expire and much of it will need to be done again – very frustrating and time consuming.

Due to the lack of movement with Uganda it was suggested by our social worker that we pursue simultaneous adoptions. This means pursue two adoptions at once. We would keep our Uganda adoption open and pursue another adoption. This is a huge decision and one that we have not taken lightly, we have sought council on this and covered the decision heavily in prayer. Originally we hoped to do fost-adoption, but our county will not allow simultaneous adoptions out of foster care. Pursuing a fost-adoption would require us to cease our adoption with Uganda, and we just don’t feel ready to do that. Maybe there will be a time when we need to close that door, or are forced to move in a different direction, but right now we don’t feel 100% ready to let it go.

This has led us to domestic adoption! Domestic Adoption has already been a whirlwind and a change for us. We are incredibly excited about this new step in the journey and  as we head down this new and unknown path we ask for prayer, we need prayer. We have been so blessed by your support, encouragement and prayers in the past and again, we thank you.

With love,

Leslie and JC

Exciting side note: We officially have a domestic adoption profile! I’ll post it on the blog soon!

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4 Responses to Adoption is amazing…until it’s not

  1. thanks so much for the update – I am praying for you both and really appreciate your honesty and vulnerability through it all even though it is hard, I’m praying God will give you his strength and courage to continue- looking forward to what’s next!

  2. Margie Padelford says:

    Thank you so much for letting us know. We will be praying for your hearts and this new step in your lives. <

  3. Kathleen Brandt says:

    You guys have been on my mind lately and I was wondering what was happening. Thank you for the update, you continue to be in my heart and prayers.

  4. Sarah says:

    Hi! My name is Sarah and my husband and I are also on the adoption journey. We are actuallyin a very similar situation to you, which is why I thought I’d leave a comment. We were in process with Ethiopia (and have been for coming up on two years now). Even despite increased problems with adoption there, we have continued to stay the course. Recently our agency told us Ethiopia did not renew their license to work in Ethiopia and while they are not giving up entirely, they are highly recommending we switch programs. This has felt devastating to us. Our hearts are very much with Ethiopia right now. We feel we are called and desire to adopt but this has really been a difficult turn of events for us….we are also considering pursuing domestic now in light of it and Uganda is actually the other program they are recommending to us (which is why I found your blog, researching Uganda and Ugandan adoptions). At this point, we feel very discouraged and just not sure where to turn. Just thought I’d let you know someone else understands! Hope that helps and I will stop and pray right now for you and your adoption!

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