Don’t get me wrong – I’m so glad we have chosen this path, but if I’m being honest, right now it sucks. Yep, I said it. Adoption can be really hard and incredibly frustrating. Please know that I’m not looking for sympathy or condolences, I’m simple sharing my heart and right now it’s a little raw.
Over a year and a half ago we decided we were ready to start a family. We prayed, and felt called to start our family with adoption. That’s when we filled out our adoption paperwork and began moving forward with international adoption. Since we first began we have seen multiple friends get pregnant, we have attended baby showers and seen many families grow. We couldn’t be happier for our friends and everything about this is beautiful, but it can also be hard at times. We feel called to adoption and know this is the direction we need to move, but when you feel like you are ready to start a family and yet have little control about the next step it often feels debilitating.
As many of you know there are still no updates with Uganda. None. We knew when we started down this path it could take a long time, but we didn’t know how long. As we posted before there has been a lot of turmoil with international adoption and it doesn’t seem to be letting up. Our agency continues to work to push paperwork through and train an in country social worker, but they are still unable to adopt children out of the country. Our paperwork will soon expire and much of it will need to be done again – very frustrating and time consuming.
Due to the lack of movement with Uganda it was suggested by our social worker that we pursue simultaneous adoptions. This means pursue two adoptions at once. We would keep our Uganda adoption open and pursue another adoption. This is a huge decision and one that we have not taken lightly, we have sought council on this and covered the decision heavily in prayer. Originally we hoped to do fost-adoption, but our county will not allow simultaneous adoptions out of foster care. Pursuing a fost-adoption would require us to cease our adoption with Uganda, and we just don’t feel ready to do that. Maybe there will be a time when we need to close that door, or are forced to move in a different direction, but right now we don’t feel 100% ready to let it go.
This has led us to domestic adoption! Domestic Adoption has already been a whirlwind and a change for us. We are incredibly excited about this new step in the journey and as we head down this new and unknown path we ask for prayer, we need prayer. We have been so blessed by your support, encouragement and prayers in the past and again, we thank you.
Leslie and JC
Exciting side note: We officially have a domestic adoption profile! I’ll post it on the blog soon!